Life Edited.

I watched the video posted below the other day and I was fascinated, 100% completely fascinated by this video. I even made Aaron watch it right after. After I watched it I started analyzing how I go about social media and how I feel about being glued to my phone or editing my life to make it look good on screen. I never realized how true it is. We show our best  selfs to the world through our social networks. We edit and filter, add just the right words and then we hit share. I am 100% guilty of only posting decent pictures to Instagram or putting up good news on Facebook. After some time thinking about why I put only my best self out there, I realized there are a few reasons.

1. I always think, “who wants to read the bad stuff?” or “who wants to look at pictures of my messy apartment and crazy hair?”
2. I look for validation. When good things happen or I take an awesome picture I look for people to tell me how good it is or how awesome I am. This one is hard for me to admit, but I would totally be lying if I said I was never looking for validation.
3. I’m a perfectionist.

I started a blog to connect with other people. I was lonely and new to the area we were living. My friends were no where near me. My husband was busy with school. I craved connection. Well what I have realized is that the people you honestly connect with are the ones that get to see and know the good and bad. Sometimes I think we need to share the not so good, to let others know they are not alone and we are not perfect, as much as we pretend to be. The video had my brain working overdrive, I think it hit on so many key points and issues. I think there is a fine line between sharing perfect moments and bad moments. Of course no one wants to hear negative things, sad things, or see crazy pictures all the time. But I think that occasionally that messy and rough part needs to be shared, do not be afraid to be vulnerable (easier said than done- I know). So here’s to being more real on the blog and on my social media networks, and here’s to taking a social media break occasionally- I think it might be good for our health to put away Twitter and Instagram for a night.

What do you think about being connected 24/7? How did you feel about the video? Do you only put your best self out there?

The Innovation of Loneliness from Shimi Cohen on Vimeo.

Happy Wednesday, friend.

3 thoughts on “Life Edited.

  1. Wow, I am so glad you shared this! I have been thinking lately about how I am worried that I have been loosing my sense of genuine self and this really helped put that in perspective. I definitely feel like I am constantly editing, holding back, and only putting the best version of myself on my blog and social media…but then is that really me? It's such a fine line because I want to be raw and honest, but sometimes I feel like the internet is not the place for that…and on the flip side, I go to the internet for connection…

    brain overwhelm.

    Thanks for sharing this! <3 I hope we can both work on it!

  2. I just started blogging this year and I find it a constant challenge to figure out just how plugged in I need to be.

    There are questions I'm always asking myself: How much am I comfortable sharing, good or bad? Do I really need to whip out my phone at every activity to make sure I have evidence and can write a post about it? If I don't share enough with my readers, will I ever have readers? Will I still be able to connect with the blog world?

    Thanks for sharing this perspective!

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